Because failure is as sure as death and taxes, one must know how to deal with failure to succeed. Today’s article presents eight ways to turn your failures into successes.
In this article:
- Turning Failure into Success by Accepting It
- Change Your Perspective from Failure to Success
- Think Excellence, Not Perfection
- Take Control of What You Can and Let Go of What You Can’t
- Acknowledge the Past but Don’t Let It Define Your Present and Your Future
- Talk Your Way to Success After Failure
- Of Fear, Success, and Failure
- Don’t Go It Alone
How to Deal with Failure so You Can Succeed
1. Turning Failure into Success by Accepting It
Make no mistake, failures suck, but there’s no reason to reject or deny their existence. Rejecting or denying them will only finalize them while accepting them can turn them into successes.
You can’t correct things you don’t believe and accept as wrong. If you continue denying your failures, you won’t be in a position to reverse them.
Let’s say you failed to reach your sales quota at work. You can deny it by saying the product has poor quality and lacks features, which is why nobody wants to buy it.
In this instance, rejecting the idea that your efforts at meeting your sales quota failed will only solidify your failure. Because if you don’t acknowledge the failure, you can’t learn from it and do something differently next time.
But, If you accept the fact you came up short of your sales quota, you’ll look for ways to sell better to reach your goals. And when you look for ways to improve, your failures won’t be final. Rather, they’ll be stepping stones to your future successes.
2. Change Your Perspective from Failure to Success
You can either look at your failures as a death sentence or as an opportunity to grow in knowledge and wisdom. The choice is yours.
Learn from Thomas Edison who failed in over 1,000 experiments to create a good working version of the light bulb. When interviewed about how he felt about failing so many times before getting it right, he said he didn’t fail because each “failed” experiment taught him how not to create a light bulb.
Thomas Edison had two choices: see his failures as a sign to stop, or as a guide to success. He chose the latter, and so should you.
Failures are loud “suggestions” to stop doing what you’re doing now and to do things differently. Choose to see them as lessons and learning opportunities so they can become an ally in your journey to success.
3. Think Excellence, Not Perfection
If you adopt the attitude of excellence, it’ll be much easier to accept your mistakes, put a positive spin and learn from them to succeed later on. This is because excellence and perfection are different.
- Excellence allows for a margin of error (failures) to succeed.
- Perfection makes no room for mistakes — it’s all or nothing.
If you have an excellence mindset, you won’t feel like a failure even if you fall short. It’s because you know that success doesn’t have to be perfect and every disappointment is a learning opportunity.
But if you’re a perfectionist, you’ll never be successful because it’s inevitable to make mistakes. Then, your “failures” will always be permanent failures.
4. Take Control of What You Can and Let Go of What You Can’t
Failures can show you things you can control and things you’re trying to but can’t.
Pay very close attention to your failures and turn them into success the next time around by exercising control wisely.
If you try to focus your time, resources, and effort on things you can control, you’ll be successful. You’re not responsible for things you have very little or no control over.
You’re responsible for things you have control over, like your speech and actions. This includes consistently practicing a skill you want to develop, preparing well for a sales pitch, or even something as simple as bringing an umbrella so you don’t end up getting soaked when it rains.
By giving it your best on the things you have the ability to control, you minimize your risk of failing. And if you do fail despite that, you’re not accountable for results that depend on things beyond your control.
5. Acknowledge the Past but Don’t Let It Define Your Present and Your Future
You have two options on how you’ll treat your past failures. You can accept or reject them.
You already know what can happen if you don’t accept them, but what does it mean to not let your past failures define your present and your future?
Let’s say you failed to lose weight because you ate more cheat meals than what was allowed.
There are two ways to face this:
The first is with self-condemnation. You can accept your failure to control your appetite and conclude you have little or no self-control and believe you’ll never be able to lose weight.
With this strategy, your acceptance of your past failures becomes an excuse not to persevere to start changing your eating habits.
The second way is by acknowledging that what happened was your fault and learning from it. The difference is you don’t just take responsibility — you also acknowledge that if you caused the failure, you can cause your success, too.
Always choose the second way. Accepting your failures, taking responsibility, and learning how to succeed from them.
6. Talk Your Way to Success After Failure
You can turn your failures into success by talking to yourself differently. Specifically, you can do it by reframing the words you tell yourself.
Reframe your thoughts and words positively instead of negatively. Let’s use the example of failing to meet your sales quota again to illustrate.
You can tell yourself “I always fall short. I tried everything but I still can’t sell enough.” That’s a negative frame or negative self-talk.
Instead, frame your self-talk positively by saying “ I fell short of my sales quota again. I think I’ll pick my top salesman friend’s brain on how to increase my sales.”
When you’re plagued by negative thoughts, ask positive questions rather than negative ones. “What else can I learn to do so I can meet my sales quota?” is better than “Why do I always fall short of my sales quota?”
Why is reframing important? When you ask yourself what else can you do to succeed, then your subconscious mind will focus on giving you answers on how to succeed.
But when you ask yourself the reasons why you always fail and focus on negative feelings, you direct your subconscious mind in the opposite direction. You tell it to justify your failures by looking for reasons or excuses.
So, do yourself a favor by talking to yourself in positive ways instead of negative ones.
7. Of Fear, Success, and Failure
Success and failure begin in the mind. Henry Ford said it best: Whether you think you can or you can’t, you’re right.
You can turn failures into success by changing your mindset, such as how you view failure. One of them is your mindset about failure.
Thinking you’ve failed already takes you one step closer to failure.
The problem is, a lot of people exaggerate the effects of failure as if failure means certain death.
Failure is a part of life. If failures really are catastrophic, you’ll have fewer friends and family alive today because all of them failed at one point in their lives.
Heck, if failures really are fatal, you wouldn’t be around, reading this article now.
Remember, the fear of failure is one of your greatest roadblocks to success. Embrace the possibility of failure and know that in most cases, you can always bounce back from them and it’ll be a learning experience for you.
When you overcome your fear of failure, you open yourself to so many opportunities to succeed. If you continue fearing it, you’ll be paralyzed from doing anything worthwhile and your chances of succeeding will be zero.
8. Don’t Go It Alone
No man is an island, as the saying goes. It’s very hard to turn failures into successes when you’re doing it alone.
When you’re going at it alone, you have limited amounts of everything: knowledge, wisdom, time, effort, abilities. But when you involve others in your journey, you’ll have access to more resources.
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You can avoid making more mistakes and failing several times more by learning from other people’s mistakes. You can get more things done by enlisting the help of other people in doing things you need to succeed through delegation or collaboration.
Failures don’t have to be your final stop. Instead, you can use them as stepping stones to achieve success in life with the right attitudes and habits.
Have you ever experienced big failures in life and how were you able to bounce back from them successfully? Let us know in the comments section below
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