To keep your sanity intact, you’ll need to learn how to deal with toxic coworkers, family members, and friends. Today’s article gives three ways to deal with the toxic and difficult people you spend much of your time with. Read on to find out more.
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In this post:
- Don’t Argue with Toxic Family Members, Coworkers, or Friends in Your Head
- Don’t Keep Tabs When Dealing With Toxic People
- Don’t Ask “Why?” When Dealing With a Toxic Personality
How to Deal with Toxic Coworkers, Friends and Family Members Now in 3 Smart Ways!
1. Don’t Argue with Toxic Family Members, Coworkers, or Friends in Your Head
Many times, having a difficult conversation, or even arguing, with a toxic person in your professional or personal life can be very addicting despite the stress it brings. You may not be aware of it, but deep inside, it’s like an itch that you desperately want to scratch.
It’s probably because in your mind, you can say whatever the hell you want to say to them without repercussions. You can say all the nasty stuff you want to, and the “arguments” will always turn out in your favor.
This type of behavior can be very addicting because it’s fun to lash out at them, yet be in a “safe” zone. The problem is, it’s a big waste of time and emotional energy and the negativity can seriously bring your stress levels through the roof.
You’d be better off thinking of ways to improve your personal productivity and focus on what you really need to do.
2. Don’t Keep Tabs When Dealing With Toxic People
Sometimes, people will ask you if you ever keep tabs on your relationships. What they probably mean is if you expect others to repay you for the good you’ve done to them, sort of like a scoreboard.
You may think, “Because I used my professional connections, I was able to help him seal the deal. The least he can do is buy me lunch at my favorite restaurant.”
Or maybe “I didn’t file a formal complaint against my boss. He shouldn’t have talked smack about me behind my back!”
When you find yourself keeping tabs of toxic people, you can consider your relationships with them like the Walking Dead. The relationships appear to be alive but in reality, it’s only a shell.
The more you keep tabs of the actions of difficult people, what you’ve done for them and vice versa, the more toxic you’ll feel. By keeping tabs, you’ll indirectly give more and more power over your life to them.
So, do yourself a favor and keep the power to yourself. Don’t keep tabs if you want to learn how to deal with toxic coworkers, family members, and friends.
This goes both ways — don’t repay bad behavior with equally negative behavior in the same way you shouldn’t expect to receive something good if you do something nice for them.
3. Don’t Ask “Why?” When Dealing With a Toxic Personality
This can be one of the most important things you’ll ever learn about how to deal with toxic coworkers, family members, and friends.
Chances are, you’ll never really find the answer to questions like:
- Why is my boss so self-centered or such a bully?
- Why is the workplace culture so toxic?
- My sibling has very toxic behavior. Why?
- Why does my assistant constantly complain, even of the littlest things?
By always asking why the people around you or the environment you’re in is toxic, you’ll just waste precious time, energy, and emotions figuring out something that will neither justify nor stop their toxicity. You’ll also just stress yourself out if you keep overthinking about your situation.
The only things worth knowing are that they’re toxic and your only productive option is to focus on what you can do.
Aside from death and taxes, you may find it impossible to completely avoid interacting with toxic, emotional, and difficult people. Learning how to deal with toxic coworkers, family members, and friends will help make your interactions with them more bearable.
Which of these three do you think can help you most in dealing with the toxic people in your life? Let us know in the comments section below!
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