Are you experiencing the dreaded quarter-life crisis? You’re not alone. Here’s everything you need to know to survive and thrive during this period.
9 Steps on How to Survive Your Quarter-Life Crisis
Step 1: Understand What a Quarter-Life Crisis Is
You’ll know you’re experiencing a quarter-life crisis if you get anxious about where you’re heading in life as well as the quality of your present. Typically, this crisis happens between 20 to 30 years old.
- Life goals
- Career and profession
- Inner life
A LinkedIn research article said that around 75% of people aged 25 to 33 have experienced or are experiencing a quarter-life crisis. If you’re part of the lucky contented quarter, you may actually know and can help someone in your age group who’s going through this crisis.
Step 2: Know That You Can Get a Quarter-Life Breakthrough
Anxiety and depression are the usual symptoms of a quarter-life crisis. However, like most things in life, you can actually leverage the negative in your life to create something positive.
A quarter-life breakthrough means renewing and breathing life in spite of being anxious and depressed. People can actually use the “crippling” crisis as a springboard to achieve greater heights.
People who go through this crisis are actually those who want something or who aim for something higher. Those who are content with where they are don’t experience a quarter-life crisis simply because they are already content.
That means if you or any other person are experiencing this crisis, you’re actually a person of potential and inspiration. What you simply need to do is to convert that anxiety and depression into motivation towards your goals.
Step 3: Have Variety in Your Life
If you’re looking for short-term relief from the anxiety, then inject something new to your life. A sudden but positive change, whether it’s an activity or a new relationship, can change how you look at things.
If you let the status quo remain, then you’re actually feeding the quarter-life crisis monster to make it bigger. Changing your mentality, environment, relationships, schedule, career, and personality may be too drastic, so start with baby steps.
They say that variety is the spice of life, so spice up and reinvigorate your life.
Examples of possible changes that are fun and beneficial include:
- Working out, whether alone or with a friend
- Meditating to increase your mental endurance and focus
- Doing a new hobby
- Volunteering for issues that you are passionate about
- Getting certifications or classes
Step 4: Stop Going on Autopilot
Going on autopilot may mean good things when it comes to your profession. It implies that you have enough expertise and confidence to do your job properly.
However, this autopilot may not be very beneficial in your daily life. When we apply our outlook from professional life to personal life, you’re in danger of having an occupational disease.
The perfect way to sum up what occupational disease is “when all you have is a hammer, everything looks like a nail”. Your life and your identity are far bigger than just your career.
You leave out very important things that can satisfy you physically and emotionally. You lose the mindfulness that allows you to appreciate the great things that are happening to you in the present simply because you’re doing routine stuff.
Step 5: Realize That You’re Ahead of the Pack
People who have a quarter-life crisis are actually ahead of the pack since this means they want more out of their life.
Use your anxiety and energy productively. When you commit yourself to an idea and a goal larger than you, you add value to the world, which in time will come back to you.
By becoming a value-adder rather than just a taker, you can set yourself ahead of most people. This shift to a more value-adding mindset can lead not just to innovations but also to success in the personal and professional aspects of your life.
Step 6: Give Yourself Some Time out
People can burn out and fall out of love, whether it’s with a career or a relationship. Generally, you have two choices: either rekindle your passion or move on.
Getting a break can help you get on the right path. Whether you want to reinvigorate your love or get some self-reflection, getting time alone to think about what really matters can help you find your footing.
How much time is needed depends on every individual. You may want to go on a one-week retreat or just spend at least 30 minutes each day for a month thinking about your ideal future and how to reach it.
Lastly, getting a break can mean a lot, especially for those who no longer find hope in improving their station. This break can be going to friends or family and asking for help.
Step 7: Pick up the Pieces of Your Life
Everyone is broken, some more than others and some much more visible than others. Just because somebody has a wonderful social media page doesn’t mean they liv ea fulfilling life.
In fact, social media usually just shows the highlights and highs of life. Getting jealous or envious due to social media presence will only make your quarter-life crisis stronger.
The first step in picking up the pieces of your life is to stop wallowing in negativity. Take out the negativity by avoiding avenues that feed it, like social media.
Have an objective view of where your life is, whether by talking to a therapist or friend. Once you have a clearer picture of where you are in your life as well as which parts of you are broken, you can finally start to heal yourself.
Step 8: Take an Objective Look at Where You Are
Talking to your support group or social network is extremely important whenever you have anxiety or depression. Being anxious or depressed can make mountains out of molehills so what you perceive of yourself and the world may not be actually correct.
Sources of objective outlook can include:
- Your friends and family
- Professionals, like therapists and counselors
- Your mentors, specifically career and finances
- Authors with their books and blogs
Having a viewpoint other than your own may help you realize things that you usually ignore. A fresh set of eyes can be all the difference that you to finally move on from your quarter-life crisis.
Step 9: Realign Yourself to Your Purpose
The lack of focus and direction in your life will give you more anxiety. Rather than stay in the mental status quo, start moving towards your goals.
It’s important you start with easy activities. Success breeds success, and you can use that momentum to break out of your crisis.
For example, losing weight involves dieting and working out. Rather than going full blast right away, you start small by having smaller portions and spending around 10 minutes at the gym.
Everyone has their own battles to fight by themselves, and that weariness shows up as the anxiety and depression found in a quarter-life crisis. A quarter-life crisis is simply a symptom of uneasiness for the future, so preparing beforehand can ease out that negativity and help you propel forward to success.
Do you have any questions about the quarter-life crisis? How do you cope with the negativity and hopelessness? Share your stories and suggestions with us in the comments section below.